Note: As you read my story below, know that this very class is kicking off again in a few weeks. If you’re interested, I highly recommend you apply soon as it will fill up….
A few weeks back, I went on a work trip to my corporate headquarters with a few of my favorite colleagues. We (as usual) tore up the town and had a complete blast. Seriously, how can you not have a great time in Southern California.
With that, I got home the next day and got a really nice call from one of the guys. We speak most days, but on this day he said to me… “Can I ask you a personal question?” And, I usually know this question… I can see it a mile away. So, of course, I said yes, and he asked the question I’ve received so many times from kind people over the years.
“Why are you single?”
And then, the conversation began and I shared what I believe to be my reasons. Yes, I’m single. Yes, I’ve been single for a while. Yes, my heart has been crushed a few times. I don’t get out enough. I never meet anyone interesting… and the list continued.
As is typical, he shared that my colleagues were talking about me and how they hope I meet someone awesome. Too kind.
I definitely recognize that I’m single, but truthfully, I don’t think about it all that often. I don’t dwell on it, and honestly, my life is pretty awesome, even without someone to share it with. But when someone brings it up, it sort of hangs around for a few.
That night, it was stuck in my head. I couldn’t help thinking about it. So, I did what we all do… I went on Instagram to distract myself. I mean, how fun are Instastories, afterall? Hours of amusement right at your fingertips.
And, as though the universe was sending me a sign, I clicked on the stories posted by Rachel Dealto. You guys know Rachel, right? She’s one of the matchmakers on Married at First Sight and incredibly relatable. Well, that very same day, Rachel announced via instatories that she was accepting applications for a virtual love coaching class called Unlock Love. If timing of the conversation I had + this announcement wasn’t a sign that I needed to participate, I don’t know what is. I quickly applied, and waited to see if I’d be accepted. I wondered if Rachel would be up to the challenge of accepting a super-single girl like me… well, she did!
In my life, I’ve taken classes on how to knit, how to make tamales, and to learn so many other life skills. It only makes sense that I’d take a class designed to help me in this area of my life as well… and who better to engage than an expert in the field from one of my favorite shows!
The class is conducted via video chat, led by Rachel and takes you through six weeks of sessions designed to help you find the love you are looking for. From incorporating a daily mantra to rewiring negative thoughts to rewriting your online dating profile, Rachel sets you up for success in the (what can be an intimidating, at least to me) dating world. I keep a busy schedule, but you’d best believe my butt was in class every week, regardless of what else was going on! So worth it!
Every week, I completed “homework”, sharing back with Rachel my thoughts, history, and goals. Reviewing my work, Rachel provided with suggestions and guidance and an opportunity to contribute to the weekly video sessions as well. I know, no one likes video, I know, but it really helps you to be part of the experience. Focused, present, and connecting with the rest of the group. I promise, it’s fine. The picture below is from one of the live sessions with Rachel sharing her wisdom.
In addition to the weekly sessions and completing homework, Rachel also assigned each of us an accountability partner. I can’t tell you how much help this partner has been to me! We’re still in touch today, and it’s nice to know that there’s someone going through a lot of the same things… and there to listen to your process. We also have a private Facebook group which has helped me connect with a few others in the class. Seriously, the group dynamic rocks. It’s like I have my own set of cheerleaders now rooting me on my next steps with this process.
And, Unlock Love also gave me an opportunity to refresh my vision board, with a specific spin toward finding love! By now, you know I’m pretty artsy, so I went all out… especially since this thing is hanging on my wall!
My big takeaway from this class: If I never make time for love, I’m never going to find it. Ultimately, while I have a ton to offer, he’s not just going to show up at my door (and we all know I don’t answer my door to strangers anyway). So, this class was really the first step toward finding an awesome man to share my life with and frankly, to letting go of some of the nonsense that’s been holding me back.
While I haven’t found Mr. Right quite yet, I feel like I have a greater understanding of what I need, what I want, and some new tools about how to find him.
If you’re looking to Unlock Love (whether single, married, or in a relationship), this class is for you! Rachel is kicking off another round of Unlock Love in November. Click here to review the application/agenda and to apply. Be sure to tell her I sent you! 🙂
If you’re interested in learning more about the class, visit Rachel’s site here and/or feel free to email me directly at nothankstocake at gmail dot com or comment below. Happy to answer any questions, y’all!