“Oh me? I’m single. I’ve never been married… no kids” How many times have I uttered this phrase?
Last week, as juror #4114, I had a chance to answer the question in front of a full courtroom. As part of the jury selection process, you had to answer marital status, spouse’s occupation, how many children, and children’s occupation. Yes, I answered that section in record time.
Normally, it don’t even hesitate on saying I’m single. It is who I am… but lately, I’ve had a little pause.
More and more, I realize that, well…. One day, I want a different answer to that question.
I mentioned last week in my Currently post that I started watching the A&E show “Married at First Sight” recently… and I got hooked. And, honestly, it’s been making me think ever since.
The premise of the show: Couples are matched by a clinical psychologist, a sociologist, a sexologist, and an expert in faith and beliefs. Through scientific means and an extensive interview process, they find matches for three men and women… And, the couples meet at the alter for the very first time.
From there, they spend the next five weeks together as husband and wife, and ultimately decide if they want to stay married or get divorced. As a viewer, you get to watch them go on their honeymoon, move in together, and live life as a new, yet married, couple. It’s on Tuesday nights on A&E BTW.
This season, there’s three couples that are still in the midst of the social experiment. We still don’t know who is going to stay together, but last season… two out of three couples made the decision to stay together. Two out of THREE!!!
I have long abandoned shows like the Bachelor/Bachelorette because of the cheesiness of the interaction. I just can’t watch those shows where people are competing for love and where women are behaving as they do. But, this Married at First Sight show… this show pulled me in.
Mostly, because I relate to the ladies on the show. Most of them have their lives in order, they’re successful, some are quite independent… and they want to find someone to enjoy their incredible life with.
While I have no intention of marrying someone I’ve never met, wouldn’t it be amazing to have a matchmaker set you up based upon what matters most to you? Taking some of the trial and error out of the process, eliminating the unavailable men who always seem to present themselves, helping me avoid the online dating scene that I abhor, and to truly (and scientifically) matching me with someone I’d love and who shared my values, beliefs, and life goals.
Oh how easy (yet completely stressful and scary) that sounds…
Rather than go through all of that and have it documented on TV – – no way! I think it’s time to get back out there. Wherever “there” is… and however, one gets there.
As horrible as it sounds, I’ve never been lucky in love. I’m not a casual dater. And, it takes a lot for someone to catch my eye (and, it’s not my eye… it’s my brain that they have to stimulate to keep my attention.)
When my heart gets squashed (or even inappropriately tampered with), it takes me a minute to bounce back, to have interest in putting myself back out there again. And, after living in a flurry of activity for a while, it’s time. Now, friends (especially all of you who think dating sounds “so fun” – – I’m looking at you, my married dears), I have zero plan for how I’m going to do this. I’ll come up with one, and then I’ll tell you about it.
I absolutely know that I have a ton to give and I’m ready to have a partner-in-crime in life. In the right moment, when I’m ready and he’s ready (whoever he is)… it’s going to happen.
And, maybe… just maybe, if you’re really lucky… I’ll tell you all about it right here. xoxo