Has anyone else noticed that just about EVERYONE
you know is getting engaged these days?
|Yep, this one got engaged, too.|
Keep in mind, this was true for most every single girl that I know aside for me. I have one or two girlfriends out there that are sticking with the single status for now, but for the most part… it appears that the world is pairing off two-by-two. I’m so far behind.
In the past, I’ve just been too “busy”. Busy working, busy traveling, busy living my life, busy achieving my version of success, and busy not meeting anyone that I could potentially pair up with. I asked a college friend of mine about it this week. Jokingly, I blame her for my not getting out there more (ie… Why didn’t you make me date more? So I’d have had more practice!).
Now, at 35 and single, I’ve realized I want more. Re-phrased, I’ve decided to make room in my life and to do something to get more.
How does a young (and fabulous) 35 year old meet a someone that’s out there that’s NORMAL and awesome. I don’t have the answer for you quite yet, dear readers, but I can tell you that I’ve started looking and I’ll keep you posted.
While I feel it’s a little overexposing to tell you too much quite yet, I joined eHarmony right before the new year. I’ve always been a little anti-online dating, thinking that it didn’t really work or couldn’t possibly work for me. However, I stand corrected. I’ve been matched with a ton of folks in the Denver area who allegedly are compatible to my personality profile. Not bad!
It’s a VERY low pressure, easy process to begin communicating. You can move at your own pace and opt out at any point. I find it very comfortable (surprisingly.)
Wednesday night, I went on my VERY first eHarmony date and it was REALLY great! I mentioned my migraines I had this week had kicked my butt, but I had already set up this date prior to any of that madness setting in. I couldn’t cancel on him, and I was so glad that I didn’t! Between us friends: I’d say it was the best first date I’ve ever had. He was smart, funny, attractive, a professional, and a total gentleman (all positives in my book.) Now, we’re still in the process of getting to know each other, but what a positive experience!
I can honestly say that I think dating is much easier now that I’ve lost the weight. Not because of what other people think about the weight… instead what I thought about the weight. I always worried about what he was thinking about how I looked, or what people were thinking about with the guy being out with that chubby girl (me.) It’s not healthy to think that way and I recognize it now, but that was the way my mind used to work.
I felt great walking into the restaurant last night with no hesitation, no major nervousness. I did text a few people letting them know where I would be and to sound the alarms if they didn’t ever hear back from me, which is slightly crazy…. but safety first, folks!
Because I know you folks love my shopping talk, the outfit came from White House Black Market. The jeans, bustier (yep!), and sweater were courtesy of a VERY awesome salesperson who put the look together. The belt is a bow belt from New York and Company, but they sell one at WHBM too… I just already had it. The iPhone case is from Verizon Wireless (of course).
I don’t know what will come next of this date that I went on this week. What I do know is that I had a great time and that I am excited to see him again. And, I think that’s right on track with where I should be. It just feels good.
If you haven’t gotten out there, what’s holding you back? Also, any good online dating tips/success stories?