How to Be a Good Friend to Your Friend on a Diet

I’ve been “on a diet” most of my adult life.  Heck, I remember when my mom put me on what I remember to be my first diet when I was maybe 8 years old, suggesting that “we” were on a diet… and “we” weren’t going to be eating the frozen brownie ice cream treats in the freezer.

As a result of being on so many programs for 30+ years, I’ve had a lot of folks try to give me outside advice on how I could be doing what I’m doing better/smarter/faster/with different ingredients/etc.  I’ve had great suggestions, great support, and well… I’ve had the other as well.

Inspired by this little life of mine and my lovely friends who supported me so well along the way, I’m going to share a few suggestions on how to offer great support to a friend/family member/co-worker who is watching their food intake.

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Understand that this is a BIG Lifestyle Shift

Your friend/sister/brother/wife is embarking upon one of the most difficult feats!  Consider this:  If weight loss were easy, obesity wouldn’t be the epidemic that it is in America!  Your loved one is in the process of trying to navigate this brand-new lifestyle that they have committed to and they likely have a range of emotions brewing about it.  They may be nervous, afraid, eager, and impatient.

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Change is not always as simple as flipping a switch.  Be patient and compassionate.  Know that they may implement trial-and-error along the way to create the best possible program for themselves, and that they may stumble 150 times along the way.  Be supportive of the change… and mostly of your loved one.  They’ll need it!

Do Not Play Diet Patrol

“Is that on your program?”

“Um… I thought you were eating healthy now?”

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As someone on a journey to getting healthy, I’ll tell you right now… I don’t always do it right.  There are times that I want to eat everything in sight.  There are times when I just can’t resist driving through Chick-Fil-A (and getting the real-deal fried chicken sandwich.)  I don’t perfectly all the time… and, I even have the nerve to call myself a “healthy living / weight loss blogger.” :)

But… those decisions are mine.  I have to face My Fitness Pal at the end of the day to track my eats.  I have to look in the mirror and face the music… I’ll deal with me.  You deal with you.  Sound good?

Avoid the Urge to Fix Things

How many times in my life have I said this: I don’t want to get off the couch and go to the gym.  Um, many many times… my friends can attest to this.  Often times, I just don’t want to go and sometimes, I need to share that.  I don’t always need a rah-rah-ree, kick ‘em in the knee kind of response… sometimes, I just want a friend to listen.

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My friend Natalie is one of the best when it comes to offering support… I really don’t know how she does it, but she always says just the right thing.  Lots of “Get it, girl” text messages… or, “Maybe you need a break.  Go tomorrow!”  Regardless… she walks the line perfectly for me.  She listens to all my shenanigans… and offers support.  This is all I need…a sounding board to my thoughts.  I’m so lucky to have her!  Now, if only she lived closer… 

Consider Hosting Healthy Food Events

Eating out when you’re watching what you are eating can be a HUGE challenges.  Even visiting a friend’s house for dinner can be a challenge!

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My friend Deb does an amazing job at making sure that we’re all going to have a blast when we get together while taking into account everyone’s eating preferences.  For example:  Deb likes to make healthy choices too, so when I was in the beginning of my process.  She sensed my nervousness about gatherings, and always called me separately to assure me that she would have healthy options on hand that she wanted to enjoy too!  I never felt like I was putting everyone else by “needing” healthy options… and I always appreciated (and still do!) her kind approach to making sure I could stay on track.

Join in on the Fun

Early on in the process and when things were getting a little bit tough for me, my sister-in-law Beth jumped on board with Jenny Craig and signed up for the program.  This was amazing support for me.  I finally had someone to talk about the food with, to talk about the process, and someone who was participating with me.

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Beth, while miles and miles away, was on board and also had some success with Jenny.  It made the process that much more fun!

Not Everything Has to Be Food-Related

Before I started on my healthy eating journey almost 4 years ago, everything we ever did was food related.  Wine night, dinners out, game night with snacks… with no regard to the calories we would be eating.

In the beginning, I just stopped joining my friends…. but over time, we’ve found other ways to have fun that include healthy activities!  We go on lots of walks… Denver has SO MANY beautiful spots to walk and hike that this has become a common outing.  My friend Tiffany and I do this quite often…

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Instead of meeting for lunch, maybe we meet for coffee instead.  My friend Kristin and I have worked this into our regular “catch-up” routine, and I love it!

Please Talk to Me about Other Topics

Just because I’ve committed to a healthy lifestyle doesn’t mean I want to spend all my time talking about the do’s and don’ts of the latest fad diet on the market, what I had for breakfast, or how I’m spending my time at the gym.

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I’m still your friend.  That fun-loving, shoe-shopping, wacky story-telling friend.  Let’s talk about all of those things… I love that you take an interest in my weight loss process… but even I need a break from it from time to time, and I get together with you to take that break.

Celebrate Success with Me

When the celebrations come… I’m going to want you to be there with me.

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It could be to celebrate that I didn’t eat the free pizza at work… or that I hit my 10K steps for the day… or it could be that I reach my weight loss goal.  Let’s celebrate together, ok?  I love to share my life’s high points with you.

Ultimately, I’m going to win no matter what, I’m going to learn, and I’m going to change… but I’d like you there beside me along the way as my friend.  Thanks in advance for all your support, love, and encouragement.  xoxo

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Seasons 52: My Kind of Restaurant

It’s been almost a year that Denver has been anticipating the arrival of our very first Seasons 52 restaurant.

I first met Seasons 52 at their Costa Mesa location with Janelle and Natalie, and fell in love with their location on the Kansas City Plaza during Natalie’s wedding weekend.  The fact that Denver was getting their very own franchise made me VERY happy!!!

I’ve been keeping my eye on the construction as the building was finished down in the Park Meadows/Lone Tree area of the city.  When the signage started popping up, I reached out to Seasons 52 to see if they would be having a pre-view event and offered to join to cover the event via NTTC.

I was THRILLED when I heard back that I had been formally invited to attend with a guest.

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We made a reservation and planned to visit the location on Monday.  I invited my gal pal Tiffany to dine with me, as she too is always a fan of healthy dining options. Arriving to see a sign like this always makes me feel a little bit VIP…

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What is Seasons 52?  Their website describes the restaurant as a fresh grill and wine bar, and I think that’s a great description.    They have a gorgeous dining room that definitely reminds me of some of my favorite wine bars.  Mostly, to me, Seasons 52 is a fantastic choice for healthy, guilt-free dining.  The perfect dining destination for anyone working to stay on track with their healthy eating, yet not willing to sacrifice an evening out with friends!

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What that tagline lacks is the revealing that everything on their menu is under 475 calories per dish and their seasonal menu is inspired by the delicious flavors of the season’s freshest fruits and vegetables.  They also offer a new menu each season and weekly chef’s specials… thus the name Seasons 52.

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We arrived just in time for the Autumn menu to be presented.  It was loaded with the season’s favorites:  brussels sprouts, butternut squash, and pomegranate.  I also learned that they carry 52 different wines by the glass!  I indulged in a tasty glass of Spy Valley Sauvignon Blanc… delish!  And, check out their super cute glasses!

Seasons 52 Lone Tree | No Thanks to CakeTiffany and I had a heck of a time deciding what to eat… mostly because everything sounded so good and (as always) because we were chatting it up too much to focus on the menu.  We decided to get started with the Garlic Pesto Chicken Flatbread.  I don’t think I’ve ever enjoyed a more perfect flatbread.  The crust was thin, crispy, and flaky… topped with warm pesto, chicken, and cheese, finished with arugula and a garlicky sauce.  Yum!!

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I was also very impressed that the restaurant not only cared for calorie counts and provides nutritional information, but they also have a considerable amount of menu options for just about any special dietary needs.  Click here for more details.  Our server Christy was also incredibly willing to accommodate any dietary needs (for me:  picky eating habits) that we needed.

For our main courses, we went for traditional entrees.  I picked the Oak-Grilled Filet Mignon, served over mashed potatoes with mushrooms, roasted tomatoes, and broccolini.  All topped with a red wine reduction.  Yum-O!

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Tiffany opted for the Oak Grilled Rack of Lamb… served with caramelized root vegetables, mashed potatoes, with a pomegranate sauce.  Check out the presentation on this dish… it also was the first time I’d ever tried lamb.  Thanks for the bite, Tiff!

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As if that weren’t enough, the wait staff also came by with a flight of desserts for us to choose from. OMG….

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I am a huge fan of these little mini desserts.  Just a few bites of deliciousness is all you really need when it comes to desserts.  I chose the Carrot Cake, while Tiffany enjoyed the Mocha Macchiato.  Both were incredible!!!  Note the candied carrot on mine.  Amazing!

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After dinner we got a quick pic in the bar and agreed that we have a new favorite spot in Park Meadows.  Thanks for a lovely evening, Seasons 52.  We can’t wait to come back!

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To find a Seasons 52 near you, click here.

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Disclaimer:  My meal at Seasons 52 was complimentary; however, all of the opinions expressed above are my own.

Have you ever dined at a Seasons 52?

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How I Spent My Blogcation: California Edition

I hope you all had a great week.  I can’t even tell you how strange it felt to not be checking in much over the past week, but I truthfully had so much going on that there just wasn’t time to blog.  So how was I filling my time??

I Jetsetted to California!

Last Saturday morning, I woke up bright and early and headed to Southern California!  I had my annual work trip to Orange County last week and added a few days of fun and sun onto the trip.  And, I got to spend time with this girl!

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Crystal and I have known each other for years now.  Former co-workers and great friends, I definitely don’t feel like I get to see this girl nearly enough!

This trip was especially lovely in that I got to meet Crystal’s family (who I’ve heard about for years!) and visit her home… She lives in Temecula, right in the middle of wine country.  The timing for the visit was perfect in that we got to enjoy the Temecula Balloon and Wine Festival.

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Temecula Balloon and Wine Festival | No Thanks to Cake

And, we drank a LOT of wine.  WAY too much wine.  And, don’t be surprised that I couldn’t keep up with the locals.

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Before heading to Orange County the next day, Crystal and I hit her local gym, where I enjoyed the most amazing yoga class.

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Before leaving Temecula, we visited one of the beautiful wineries in the area:  Leoness Cellars.  We packed up a little lunch and headed over there to enjoy a glass of white wine on the terrace… delicious!

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Afterward, Crystal was nice enough to drive me up to Orange County where I met up with the lovely Janelle.  Traffic in SoCal was insane, so we ended up meeting up in San Juan Capistrano.  What an adorable little “old town” area!  We had a wonderful dinner visiting and catching up at Guapas Tapas – - Check out the gazpacho cucumber cups below!  Amazing!!

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I wrapped up the week in Orange County with co-workers.  Long days of learning and networking, I learned a lot and was exhausted by the time I came home late on Wednesday night.

And this is just the beginning of the week!  

Have you been to Temecula Wine Country or beautiful San Juan Capistrano?

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Girls Getaway in the Mountains

March 2nd marked my SEVEN year anniversary of living in Colorado… and for those of you in Tennessee, can you believe it??  It seems like just yesterday that I packed up all my essentials and moved across country!  Seven years later, I am so happy I made the decision to move!

Now, even though I’ve lived here for that long… I finally did something that is VERY Colorado for the first time.

I finally went to the mountains in the winter!

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Now, I’ve spent a bit of time up in the high country during the summer… but I’m not a skier or snowboarder, and I’m not the best driver in the snow and ice… so I never quite made it up there until this weekend!

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When Kristen invited a group of girls to her dad’s condo in Winter Park, I couldn’t resist joining in!  I met Kristen through my friend Tiffany, and I just love her positive spirit!  She’s a native Colorado girl… so who better to serve as tour guide to this Southerner’s first trip up!

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We ended up being a party of 4 – Kristen, Tiffany, and Ashley (who I just met for the first time this weekend!)

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We drove up to Winter Park on Saturday morning.  After unloading our stuff in the condo, we headed to The Village for lunch.  Kristen introduced us to our first ride on a people mover.  It is sort of like a lift, yet just moves you from parking lot to the village.

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While there are Cheeky Monk locations in Denver, I had never been and we were all craving a hot meal on such a cold, cold day, especially after the windy ride in the people mover!  I settled on a Blackened Chicken Pita Wrap with a salad instead of fries.  So good!!!

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Afterward, we walked around the Village popping into souvenir shops and visiting along the way.  The snow was coming down, but we didn’t let that slow us down!

Winter Park | No Thanks to Cake

Winter Park | No Thanks to Cake

We initially had great aspirations of going snowshoeing and playing in the snow, but when we were done with lunch and shopping, all we really wanted to do was head back to the condo and curl up on the leather couches in front of the fireplace.

This was my view for the next few hours… curled up under a down blanket.  We watched a movie, and some of us (me) took a nap.

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Later that night, Kristen took us to her favorite pizza place for dinner – Hernando’s.  Such a fun little place with great pizza!  It’s been a while since I had real-deal pizza… so good!

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Afterward, we went back to the condo, back to the fireplace, and opened a bottle of wine.  We snacked on green velvet angel food cake, and we found a fun game to play in the condo.  Have you ever played Table Topics?

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It’s supposed to be a conversation starter, but we had so many fun answering questions that we did this for hours!  Here are some examples of what questions in the box look like.

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It was so fun getting to know these girls better and JUST RELAXING a little on a Saturday night.  What a great way to re-energize after a huge work week!

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We ended up grabbing a quick breakfast and heading home in the morning, so as to avoid crazy ski traffic.  Overall, I had a blast… and I know a little more what to expect next time I’m up there.  It also makes me want to spend more time up in the mountains and to see more beautiful places like this!

Thanks, Kristen, Tiffany, and Ashley, for a wonderful weekend… I look forward to spending time with you guys again very soon!  xoxo

Have you ever spent the weekend in the mountains?  What’s your favorite thing to do while there?

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