How to Be a Good Friend to Your Friend on a Diet

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I’ve been “on a diet” most of my adult life.  Heck, I remember when my mom put me on what I remember to be my first diet when I was maybe 8 years old, suggesting that “we” were on a diet… and “we” weren’t going to be eating the frozen brownie ice cream treats in the freezer.

As a result of being on so many programs for 30+ years, I’ve had a lot of folks try to give me outside advice on how I could be doing what I’m doing better/smarter/faster/with different ingredients/etc.  I’ve had great suggestions, great support, and well… I’ve had the other as well.

Inspired by this little life of mine and my lovely friends who supported me so well along the way, I’m going to share a few suggestions on how to offer great support to a friend/family member/co-worker who is watching their food intake.

How to Be a Good Friend to Your Friend on a Diet | No Thanks to Cake

Understand that this is a BIG Lifestyle Shift

Your friend/sister/brother/wife is embarking upon one of the most difficult feats!  Consider this:  If weight loss were easy, obesity wouldn’t be the epidemic that it is in America!  Your loved one is in the process of trying to navigate this brand-new lifestyle that they have committed to and they likely have a range of emotions brewing about it.  They may be nervous, afraid, eager, and impatient.

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Change is not always as simple as flipping a switch.  Be patient and compassionate.  Know that they may implement trial-and-error along the way to create the best possible program for themselves, and that they may stumble 150 times along the way.  Be supportive of the change… and mostly of your loved one.  They’ll need it!

Do Not Play Diet Patrol

“Is that on your program?”

“Um… I thought you were eating healthy now?”

Danny Devito Friends | No Thanks to Cake

As someone on a journey to getting healthy, I’ll tell you right now… I don’t always do it right.  There are times that I want to eat everything in sight.  There are times when I just can’t resist driving through Chick-Fil-A (and getting the real-deal fried chicken sandwich.)  I don’t perfectly all the time… and, I even have the nerve to call myself a “healthy living / weight loss blogger.” :)

But… those decisions are mine.  I have to face My Fitness Pal at the end of the day to track my eats.  I have to look in the mirror and face the music… I’ll deal with me.  You deal with you.  Sound good?

Avoid the Urge to Fix Things

How many times in my life have I said this: I don’t want to get off the couch and go to the gym.  Um, many many times… my friends can attest to this.  Often times, I just don’t want to go and sometimes, I need to share that.  I don’t always need a rah-rah-ree, kick ‘em in the knee kind of response… sometimes, I just want a friend to listen.

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My friend Natalie is one of the best when it comes to offering support… I really don’t know how she does it, but she always says just the right thing.  Lots of “Get it, girl” text messages… or, “Maybe you need a break.  Go tomorrow!”  Regardless… she walks the line perfectly for me.  She listens to all my shenanigans… and offers support.  This is all I need…a sounding board to my thoughts.  I’m so lucky to have her!  Now, if only she lived closer… 

Consider Hosting Healthy Food Events

Eating out when you’re watching what you are eating can be a HUGE challenges.  Even visiting a friend’s house for dinner can be a challenge!

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My friend Deb does an amazing job at making sure that we’re all going to have a blast when we get together while taking into account everyone’s eating preferences.  For example:  Deb likes to make healthy choices too, so when I was in the beginning of my process.  She sensed my nervousness about gatherings, and always called me separately to assure me that she would have healthy options on hand that she wanted to enjoy too!  I never felt like I was putting everyone else by “needing” healthy options… and I always appreciated (and still do!) her kind approach to making sure I could stay on track.

Join in on the Fun

Early on in the process and when things were getting a little bit tough for me, my sister-in-law Beth jumped on board with Jenny Craig and signed up for the program.  This was amazing support for me.  I finally had someone to talk about the food with, to talk about the process, and someone who was participating with me.

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Beth, while miles and miles away, was on board and also had some success with Jenny.  It made the process that much more fun!

Not Everything Has to Be Food-Related

Before I started on my healthy eating journey almost 4 years ago, everything we ever did was food related.  Wine night, dinners out, game night with snacks… with no regard to the calories we would be eating.

In the beginning, I just stopped joining my friends…. but over time, we’ve found other ways to have fun that include healthy activities!  We go on lots of walks… Denver has SO MANY beautiful spots to walk and hike that this has become a common outing.  My friend Tiffany and I do this quite often…

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Instead of meeting for lunch, maybe we meet for coffee instead.  My friend Kristin and I have worked this into our regular “catch-up” routine, and I love it!

Please Talk to Me about Other Topics

Just because I’ve committed to a healthy lifestyle doesn’t mean I want to spend all my time talking about the do’s and don’ts of the latest fad diet on the market, what I had for breakfast, or how I’m spending my time at the gym.

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I’m still your friend.  That fun-loving, shoe-shopping, wacky story-telling friend.  Let’s talk about all of those things… I love that you take an interest in my weight loss process… but even I need a break from it from time to time, and I get together with you to take that break.

Celebrate Success with Me

When the celebrations come… I’m going to want you to be there with me.

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It could be to celebrate that I didn’t eat the free pizza at work… or that I hit my 10K steps for the day… or it could be that I reach my weight loss goal.  Let’s celebrate together, ok?  I love to share my life’s high points with you.

Ultimately, I’m going to win no matter what, I’m going to learn, and I’m going to change… but I’d like you there beside me along the way as my friend.  Thanks in advance for all your support, love, and encouragement.  xoxo

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NTTC Blogtastic Reader Survey + {GIVEAWAY}

I’m in the process of upgrading my blog again.

Do any of you remember when NTTC looked like this way back in the day???

Original NTTC Website | No Thanks to Cake

This was my ORIGINAL blog design when I first started writing on this little ol’ blog of mine.  Back in 2012, NTTC underwent a huge transformation making it the site that it is today… and since then, the blog has changed a bit.

I still love yoga, I still love to make healthy choices, but…. I’ve sort of outgrown my space.  So, placing my trust in a new designer, we’re about to partake in another makeover!!! O-M-G… Are you as excited as I am??

Things to look forward to… a new design layout, a new way to organize all my yummy recipes (making it so much easier for y’all to find what you’re looking for!), and a fresh face for the fall and beyond…

Considering that we’re in the process of redesigning my space, I thought it would be PERFECT timing to host my 2nd BLOGTASTIC survey!!  While I’ll take care of the aesthetics, I’m asking you about what you want to read, what you want to hear more about, and how you like to connect! 

NTTC Survey

If clicking on the image does not take you to my survey, click here to get there directly.

And… as I thank you for your time spent filling out my survey, I’m going to offer a $25 Target Gift Card to one lucky reader!!!  Details on how to enter are within the survey itself!

Thank you to each of you for reading and for completing this survey.  I’ll remind you guys throughout the week that the survey is still open, and I’ll close it out officially on Friday, September 26.


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Honey-Lime Sriracha Chicken

When the temps start dipping, it’s only natural that I get obsessed with my grill.  Trying to squeeze as much grill-time in as possible before I cover it up one last time for the season.

That being said, I’m a huge fan of marinating meats and cooking them outdoors… and this dish is a new one in my rotation, officially as of this week!

Honey Lime Sriracha Chicken | No Thanks to Cake

A recipe with honey, lime, and SRIRACHA in the title… it definitely caught my attention.  I was able to marinate the meat overnight and quickly grill it up on Monday afternoon for a fast and easy dinner… full of flavor!

Despite having sriracha in the name, this dish is more flavorful and less spicy… fear not, those who are not spicy fans!  If you’re a huge fan of sriracha and are looking for an extra kick of heat, add a little extra.

Honey-Lime Sriracha Chicken

Adapted from Handle the Heat via Pinterest

Serves 4


Honey-Lime Sriracha Chicken | No Thanks to Cake

1/4 cup honey
3 tablespoons low-sodium soy sauce
1/2 tablespoon olive oil
Zest and juice of two limes
3 garlic cloves, peeled
2 tablespoons Sriracha sauce
1 teaspoon kosher salt
4 boneless skinless chicken breast halves (about 6 ounces each)


1.  Mix first 7 ingredients in a small bowl.  Whisk to combine.

Honey-Lime Sriracha Chicken | No Thanks to Cake


Honey-Lime Sriracha Chicken | No Thanks to Cake


2.  Place chicken in a ziploc bag and refrigerate overnight to marinate.

Honey-Lime Sriracha Chicken | No Thanks to Cake


3.  Cook on a hot grill until done, about 4-6 minutes on each side.

Honey-Lime Sriracha Chicken | No Thanks to Cake


4.  Allow to rest for 5 minutes, and serve with some lovely veggies.  Note:  I served mine with my favorite Italian green bean recipe.

Honey Lime Sriracha Chicken | No Thanks to Cake


Honey-Lime Sriracha Chicken | No Thanks to Cake



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Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers

Have you guys heard that there is a new Laughing Cow Cheese on the block??

Your favorite wedged cheese now comes in SPICY PEPPER JACK!!!  OMG…

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

My friends over at Laughing Cow were sweet enough to send me a few wheels of cheesy goodness to try out and to share the spicy, cheesy news with all of you!

I continue to use Laughing Cow as my go-to snacking cheese.  Whether I’m pairing it with veggies (cucumbers, carrots, and peppers are my faves) or a light cracker, I’ve established a deep-rooted love for these little triangles!

As part of their Pepper Jack campaign, Laughing Cow challenged me to come up with a fantastic new way to snack on their creamy wedges… and I’ve come up with a REALLY tasty recipe for all y’all!

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

Just in time for football season, you’ve got a new go-to healthier jalapeño popper to enjoy!  It’s not fried or breaded like it’s high-fat cousin… instead, it’s loaded with veggies, white-meat chicken, and, of course, our star:  Laughing Cow Spicy Pepper Jack cheese!

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers featuring Laughing Cow Cheese

Serves 2


5 jalapeño peppers, halved horizontally with seeds removed

2 wedges Laughing Cow Spicy Pepper Jack flavor

1 1/2 Tbsp. white onion, minced

1 clove garlic, minced

1/4 cup baby spinach, chiffonade

2 Tbsp. cooked white meat chicken, chopped finely

1 Tbsp. reduced fat Mexican cheese

cooking spray




1.  Preheat your oven to 350 degrees.

2.  Slice and remove the seeds of your peppers.  You should have 10 halves to work with.

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

3.  Take one of your pepper halves, and dice it finely.

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

4.  Add your onion, garlic, and diced jalapeño to a skillet and sauté on medium heat for 2 minutes.  Add the spinach and cook entire mixture until spinach has wilted, about 1-2 minutes, stirring frequently.

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

5.  Add your chicken, and cook another minutes.  Note:  I prepared my chicken in a crockpot the day before, and then simply chopped it finely and added to the pan.  You could also very easily use rotisserie chicken or grilled chicken breast.

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6.  Remove mixture from the heat to a small bowl.  Add your Laughing Cow wedges, and mash with a fork to combine.  Add salt and pepper to taste.

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

7.  Using a spoon, scoop the mixture into the peppers.  Place the stuffed peppers on a baking sheet, sprayed with cooking spray.

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

8.  Carefully top the peppers with 1 Tbsp. of cheese.  Just a few shreds per pepper will add a touch of added cheese goodness.

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

9.  Bake these bad boys in the oven for 20-25 minutes, until peppers soften and cheese melts.  Garnish with sliced grape tomatoes and finely chopped cilantro, if desired.

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

10.  Serve hot, and enjoy!!!

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

Lightened Up Jalapeño Poppers | No Thanks to Cake

Per about 5 stuffed pepper halves:

CAL 103; CARB 4g; FAT 5g; PROT 9g; FIB 1g; WW Points Plus: 2


For more tasty Laughing Cow Cheese recipes, check out my recent Recipe Roundup

Recipe Roundup: Laughing Cow Cheese | No Thanks to Cake

Note:  The Laughing Cow provided me with product and a gift card for this review.  However, thoughts and opinions are my own and do not necessarily reflect those of the brand.

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